Monday, April 12, 2010

Dear Vir,

As we remind each other whenever it suits us, you're now three years old. That's pretty grown up. Yet, it appears that you're not grown up enough to really know that sometimes, the things you do cause me some amount of stress. For example, it's really not fun for anyone except you when you push your little sister when she's sitting and playing by herself. It's also not funny when you take the cookie on which her morning happiness depends and fling it across the room. Or worse, take a bite of it right in front of her. She finds it very confusing when her cookie becomes smaller so quickly. She also doesn't appreciate the constant nips and scratches she gets from you. Of course, I don't need to write you a letter to say all this. We live in the same house. I could just tell you and that would be more efficient. But that's the thing. I have told you. I'm not really keeping count but the number of times I've told you has definitely hit the high thousands. So I'm guessing that's not working. That's why I thought of writing to you. I guess one day you'll read this, and the way you're going, you'll probably still be pushing Tara or tricking her out of her cookies. So this letter will be timely no matter when you read it.

Meanwhile, here's what I'm going to do. I'm going to finally understand that you're, regardless of how grown up I say you are, just a three year old. And while you're unbelievable cute and can pull at my heartstrings in a way that nothing else can, you're also very annoying a lot of the times. But that's what three year olds do - they bug their parents. And it's my job as your mother to deal with that. Not your job. So I'm going to take what you throw at me and do my best to smile while at the same time gently yet firmly guiding you towards not bugging me. And you'll just be you. Sometimes annoying, sometimes leading my blood pressure to spike, sometimes really testing your little sister's strength and patience, but always always the most lovable little boy in my world. Deal? Alright then.

Love,
Mamma

5 comments:

Anonymous said...

Well, hopefuly this was more you letting it out then anything else!! In a few years when he can read and understand this, he might actually be protecting Tara from the bullies and telling you off 'coz you yelled at her and then this li'il outburst will seem so silly. Ofcourse, darling - it's all part of bringing them up and who said it was gonna be easy. I guess we'll all do our best and hope that the gods will take care of the rest.
Until then - remember that you are the best mom your kids will ever have and nothing will ever compare. No one knows your kids better than you do and one day you will look at them and say 'Oh yeah - I made 'em!'
As for right now and right here - get him to face the wall or scrub the floor (watch Annie for inspiration ;-)) if it makes you feel better ;-) !!!!
Lots luv - Divya

Manika said...

Yeah - this is more of me letting it out! I love this boy more than anything else, but man he makes me mad sometimes! But more and more, I'm realizing that I probably stress more than I should and we all have a lot more fun when I let things slide. So this post is the beginning of a more easy going mom! Let's see about that!

gunjan said...

hi Manika, i am writing to u for the first time. ur blog has really made me introspect. i too have two kids the elder one is 7 years and the younger one is just 5 months old. and my God it takes all your energies just to attend to them. yeah, i agree with u that we have to at times let things work out at their own pace. i hope i would also like to be a part of the process of being an easy going mom.

i would like to know your experience of living in Vatika City. we have got a flat there which is currently rented out.

gunjan

gunjan said...

hi Manika, i am writing to u for the first time. ur blog has really made me introspect. i too have two kids the elder one is 7 years and the younger one is just 5 months old. and my God it takes all your energies just to attend to them. yeah, i agree with u that we have to at times let things work out at their own pace. i hope i would also like to be a part of the process of being an easy going mom.

i would like to know your experience of living in Vatika City. we have got a flat there which is currently rented out.

gunjan

Manika said...

Hi Gunjan! Thank you for your comment:-) And congratulations on the new baby!

Vatika city has been very nice on the whole. We've lived there almost two years and I still lke it! Perhaps you could leave me your email address if you'd like me to write in more details about the place? Are you planning to move in soon? Are you looking to know anything specific about the place?

Manika